I'm a bit confused here Bill - not difficult after a certain age!

When you say the tail light should come on with the headlight did you mean headlight pilot or headlamp main and dip (or both).
My tail light comes on with the pilot (first position) and main/dip (second postion). Apologies if I am stating the obvious.
BTW if you have 12v and have not already done so it is worth trying the halogen main beam bulb and to lower the consumption, an LED rear bulb (shines red in the middle for stop and tail and has some white LEDs around the outside for numberplate lighting). I think you can get a headlamp pilot in LED too.
I have been following your project with great interest and looking forward to some pics of the finished article.
Jim